Dear ex-Father and Mother-in-law,
Firstly, let me express my wishes for your well-being, good health and happiness. You deserve nothing less and I hope that the floodgates of Heaven are indeed open upon your lives.
My apologies for writing and posting this letter on a public forum – Apart from the fact that I don’t want to reach you personally, I think that this letter may also be a guiding light to others who are walking the same road as I am.
I want you to know that all is well with me; I remarried and we are a very happy family; I became the Daddy to two beautiful children. I am still in the same job which may be a disappointment to you; I always felt you expected me to be more than a teacher. But this is the path the Lord has set before me and I intend to walk it for what it is. That doesn’t mean I don’t have the ambition to achieve better in life, but something I’ve learnt is that all good things happens in God’s perfect timing.
It is now 6 years, 8 months, 23 days and approximately 1 hour and 40 minutes since my divorce from your daughter. The first two, say two and a half years of it was utter Hell on Earth to me; I have no idea how long your daughter took to recover – on the one hand I hope she did it faster than I did but on the other hand I hope she suffered every bit as much as I have. And suffered I did.
My mental health which I believe was a concern unspoken of yours, is good. I believe it was unspoken because you never addressed the matter with me. I have ended up in hospital once, though. Instead of feeling it to be a derogatory state, I found it to be one of the best things that happened to me. Yes, each day is still a fight. I am yet to end up in prison for physically harming someone I know or don’t know if that was what you were afraid of.
I thought it would be much harder to write this than it is but now I’ve finally decided to do it, it comes quite easily. Lately I’ve dreamed about you so much that it almost feels like I am just typing a quick email to you.
Let me cut to the chase though. I thank you, especially you, ex-Father-in-law, for being the kind, compassionate person you are. I miss you and I can still recall your small gestures of love, kindness and acceptance of me and I could tell that they weren’t for your daughter’s sake but truly sincere. Ex-Mom-in-Law, thank you for all that time you listened to my rants and to encourage me and praying for me. I am forever in your debt for the kindness you have shown me.
I do, have this to say against you: You, especially you, ex-Mom-in-Law, poisoned your daughter against me. I wonder and will probably be haunted until my dying day as to why. Were you afraid of me? Did you perceive me as so bad a threat to your daughter? If that was the reason, or any other reason for that matter, why didn’t you ever talk to me about it? This part is difficult to write again. I was very angry about this for a very long time but when I finish this letter to you, I’m letting go of that anger and resentment. That is what this letter is all about.
In the end, all that is left to be said is thank you and you’re forgiven. And I’m better off now, but I mean it in a nice way, just as I think your daughter is better off without me. And congratulations on becoming grandparents to a beautiful baby girl. Give your daughter my best, if you will.
And I still love you – my thoughts dwell on you ever so often, gentle as a feather on a stream.